Who Is In Your Corner? Really?..

There are a lot of people that give lip-service to saying they support you, but when it comes time to take action they SHOW that they don't support you.

There are some who have diluted themselves into believing that they support you, but in reality, they do not.

I've noticed that when it comes to doing what you REALLY want to do in this world, what you feel in your spirit you were created to do, the audience in your corner is going to be next to nothing. I can confirm this from experience. I liken it to something that Bishop T.D. Jakes once said about having Confidants, Constituents, and Comrades and I never forgot it.

Confidants - These are people who love you unconditionally and are with you ALL THE WAY through the good times and the bad. They never leave you hanging, and whenever you need them or they see you are IN need, they are the first to spring into action to help you regardless of the circumstances or consequences. They are into YOU, so no matter what happens they will always be there for you and with you. You are blessed if you have more than two people like this in your life.

Constituents - These people are similar to confidants and are often confused with confidants, but they are NOT the same. Constituents are people who are in your corner if you share a common-goal. They are into what you are into. They like what you like. You may bond with them over something external be it politics, sports, entertainment, business, food, etc. There is something "about" you that resonates with them because it is something that is within them as well. However, this is a means to and end. They are not into YOU, but they are into what YOU are into are they are FOR what you are FOR. If someone comes along in a package that is in prettier-wrapping that also is FOR what they are FOR, they can and usually do leave you high and dry because they were never into YOU in the first place. There is a place in our lives for constituents, but you must take care and understand who they are and what their purpose is in your life. Emotionally, it is dangerous to confuse a constituent with a confidant. Often times it can lead to broken-relationships and hard-feelings. Comrades - These are people who don't necessarily care about YOU or anything that you believe in, BUT, they will stand with you if you have a common-enemy. If there is a greater-issue at hand, comrades will team up with you if they are against what you are against. HOWEVER... Once the goal has been achieved, the comrades will go back to doing what they were doing before they joined you in battle. When it comes to fighting a major-injustice, it is very easy for emotions to run amuck and also very easy for emotions to become misplaced. As dangerous as it is to confuse a constituent with a confidant, it is even more dangerous to confuse a comrade with a confidant. However, if you are a level-headed person that can keep your emotions in check then this is not something that usually happens. Usually, comrades are people that have different ideological-views than you so you aren't interested in cultivating a relationship with them to start with if we are going to be honest with ourselves. Most people can identify comrades and understand their purpose in their lives. We've seen (in the past) with national-emergencies when the people of America have come together as one whether it be natural-disasters, or terrorism. However, once everything died-down and it got sweet again, everybody went back to hating each other again. I guess I said all that to say this. Don't let the actions of others derail you from your agenda. At some point in your life, you will need all three of the aforementioned-people. We have to learn to identify those people and the roles that they play in our lives so that instead of pot-holes on our path, they become fuel for the journey.

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